Why Does the Universe Give Me Things I Don't Want?

Over the past two weeks I have learned a wonderful lesson on manifestation and the ways of the Universe.  As you know I focus my intention on being happy and fulfilled.  While I visualize various ways that I think this can be accomplished, I always leave the door open for God and the Universe to do what is best.  You see I realize that what I think I want or need may not actually be what I want or need.  Being a human of little brain can get in the way of true knowing at times.

About a week and a half ago I got some news.  A company reorganization that would put me in a new role.  This new role plays into all of my strengths and none of my weaknesses.  It is something that I will enjoy doing and a position in which I know I can make a positive impact not just on the bottom line, but on the people reporting to me and the people I report to.  You might say it's a bit of a dream job.

The funny thing is that I was not aware that I wanted or needed a dream job.  I've been thinking that writing was my dream job.  Yet when this news was presented to me I became excited, and I felt this moment where the fabric of the Universe shifted around me and I knew, I just knew, that this was the right thing for me right now.

That knowing, that sense of being in the right place, has eluded me for several years, and I had forgotten how good it can feel.  The last time I felt like this was a decade ago in my job with HP.  I looked forward to each new day at work, and my mind was constantly buzzing with ideas and excitement.

While this will certainly mean less time to write, I realize that not writing because I'm doing something else that I love is much better than not writing because I HAVE to do something else that I hate to make a living.  It's an interesting distinction and one that leads me back to my title.

I guess the Rolling Stones said it best, "You can't always, get what you want.  You can try sometimes, but you might find, you get what you need."  No truer words were ever spoken, or sung.

So if you find yourself getting gifts from God and the Universe that don't seem to fit with what you had planned or envisioned, ask yourself if these gifts might actually be what you need.  Are they stepping stones to somewhere else?  Are they forcing you to learn new skills?  Sometimes a gift looks like a tragedy, but in reality it is an opportunity to grow and change, and become ready to accept greater gifts down the road.

No one would ever describe the loss of a spouse as a gift.  Yet, looking back on the past 13 years since Billy's death I can see the path that followed that horrible loss.  I see the changes in myself that I was forced to make that have in turn helped me to become a person who can help others.  Everything you have read here on my blog is a direct outgrowth of that powerful event, which shocked my system to the core, and fundamentally changed my view of life.

It was not anything I ever visualized or asked for by any means, but it was a gift in its own way.  And I realize that the Universe and God work in mysterious ways. Now, more than ever, I am sure that they give you exactly what you need, when you need it and not a moment sooner.

Comments

[Evan]

Sometimes it is not what happens that is the gift but what we learn. This is our doing - it is not the awful event that is the gift but how we respond.

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[Raymond Chua]

Sometimes not getting what you want is a gift too. :)

[Sandra Foyt]

Accepting what you cannot change, and using that to learn and grow seems like the only way to live a healthy, meaningful life. Thanks for a great post!

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[Maudrey]

Inspiring post. I believe anything and everything that comes to us - good or bad - are gifts that we deserve. We may not think of it as a gift at the exact moment it comes to us. But sooner or later, it shows itself as the blessing it really is.

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[Cathy]

I love this post. I was just reflecting this morning and the path my life has taken - much of it as I expected and a lot of it very different. Some of the things that have happened in my life that seem like a disaster have turned out to have so many positives. You just never know.

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[jackie sheeler]

congratulations on the new job, melissa! this post was a total inspiration for me this morning. i have a "good" job that i really dislike, and would also like to spend all my time on creative projects -- songwriting and blogging. but if my job somehow transformed and i became totally engaged in projects that i believed in (and, like you, i've had jobs like that in the past) it could easily become as fulfilling to me as my other creative pursuits.

so i will hope!

thanks for giving me a great start to my day. and best of luck with the new gig.

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[Michele Angelo]

I can only say Amen. And go with God.

[Evelyn Lim]

Congratulations, Melissa! I thoroughly enjoyed what you are writing here. We may think we know we want but sometimes the Universe/God has a plan that gives us much much more. I'm so glad to know that you have found a job that on an overall basis, fits in with what you need right now. I can't be any happier for you!

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